Whether you are in a long-distance relationship or just missing someone very close to your heart, it can be very difficult to deal with especially if they’re no longer out of reach forever. Whatever the reasons it may be, you’re no longer on good terms with them, they moved away or passed away and longing for their presence, you will experience draining emotionally. It’s great if you can still catch up with them from time to time, but if not, it can be very painful.
I easily get attached to people that I’ve met in the past and these cases, some things reminded me of them. It may be a song I suddenly hear from the radio, a line that I read from a book, or food that I eat. Some memories make me smile and even laugh but reminiscing the times we had together makes me sad. It’s funny to think that when you were at that moment, it feels like forever but the moment that it’s done, the memories can only last a split second and poof! It’s gone.
When you miss someone, it’s normal to feel different kinds of feelings. Be sad, happy and angry if you want too but don’t let your emotions have control over you. There are things that you can do if you are missing and longing for the person who’s not on your side in the present.
1. Spend time with people we’re with at the moment.
Don’t let the idea of lacking the person’s presence haunt you. Instead, shift your attention to those people who are there for you and appreciate them. Watch movies, eat and have fun with your friends and family. Just because you’re missing some people in your life doesn’t mean that there are no other people that you can spend time with. You should grab the chance that you have with them rather than go back to the past and feel bad that they’re now only memories.
2. Focus on making yourself better.
Try new hair color, a new style, or treat yourself with a face and body massage. Don’t get stress and feel miserable when you miss someone. Maybe you haven’t notice that when you’re still with the person you miss, you tend to focus on them and you start to neglect yourself. That’s why this is the best time to test yourself to become more independent and start taking care of yourself first before anyone else.
3. Occupy yourself as much as you can.
Pursue new hobbies, watch new movies or series, read books are some of the things that you can do so you can fill in the time that you’re supposedly thinking about the person you miss. You’re already lonely inside so why not try to make yourself fulfilled on the outside? It’s not healthy to always feel bored because there are so many things that can occupy our time productively. We just need to look for the things that fit our interests.
Thank you so much for reading!